Looking for fun buddy, Santa Barbara

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Situation One
Wonderfully entincing man that I have had the pleasure to communicate via internet and a few phone conversation since the beginning of summer, perhaps even earlie. We are alarming similiar in wants and desires. I know him well, it feels like. We have contemplated meeting for carnal pleasures, but I know it would be more than that. How? Because our conversations are more than just that. He has captured or at the very least engaged my mind. If we met, it would be labeled as a NSA situation from each of us. I consider him a friend.

Situation Two
Off for work related conferences at a beautiful resort and was approached by a man. Attractive ... more so than not. Agreed to dinner and we had great conversation. He inquired about my wants in life and I shared with him what I was looking for and he was rather intrigued, enough so to say he wanted on the ride. At the end of the evening he wanted to get a room ... this with no physical interaction all night. When I told him thank you, but no thank you he was stunned. In his mind I was looking for nsa and he was more than willing to offer it. He wanted to know what the problem was because we clearly had an attraction to one another (I did?). I consider him a stranger.

Situation Three
A married man, a few conversations and a meeting. He wants all the passion in the world that only stolen moments can provide. He wants a mini travel companion to accompany him on business trips and pretend business trips. He wants more than a mistress (his words), he wants someone to 'help' when there is a need. Whether it be coming over to fix a leaky faucet or offer shoulder to lean on. He even imagined being a positive male role model for my daughter and went as far as suggesting that we would incorporate a movie night for the three of us. 

Well none of these relationships fits any of the labels because none of them have progressed to the point of romance.

An NSA relationship is more like people who meet and decide to have sex without any consideration for maintaining contact, sexual or otherwise. Of course, an NSA situation can be ongoing, but it still revolves around sex, not an interest or liking of another person. But to further confuse matters, either of these types of relationships can change into the other, or into another relationship form altogether. I think both types are often expected to by non-monogamous but not always, and that's an area where people, if they don't communicate, can arrive at some misunderstandings about the nature of the relationship.